A few days ago, my colleague shared that his kids came home from college for Thanksgiving weekend and he was thankful that everyone is under one roof again. He said “All is right in the world.”
I love that statement, because when you miss your family, that is exactly how it feels to have everyone together again.
I can relate. My husband is traveling for work a lot this year and every time he is home, our daughter and him get curled up on the couch and usually fall asleep together. When this happens, I take a photo to capture the moment, thinking the same thing, “All is right in my world.”
Cherish the moments
The thing about not having your family together all the time is that even though it’s hard and things are different, we embrace the changes. Now, when we see each other we make the most of it. We put the phone down more often and listen. We look for all of the events we can do or experience together. It’s not just about getting through the day, and being on repeat.
Sharing a meal
Of course, with today being Thanksgiving, it seems fitting that I would say that my favorite family moments are when we are all gathered around the table together enjoying the food and the company. But it is one of my favorite things, anytime it happens, not just on Thanksgiving. Whether it’s our family of 3 at home talking about our day or the whole family getting together,catching up, telling stories and jokes or laughter over a glass of wine with a friend or partner at the end of a long day. Something about the true nourishment of those moments, not just for the body, feels soulful.
Luckily, when I was growing up, one of the things we always did was have dinner together as a family. My mom made dinner almost every night, nothing too fancy but good. I’m so thankful for that.
For the past few years, my family has dinner together at the end of the week. My sister in law and I take turns bringing dinner, sometimes carry out, sometimes homemade. My mom calls it the “Friday Family Feast.” It’s not always fun & laughter, but most of the time it is. There is a comfort of having everyone together. Having my family, the people who know and love me no matter what, the people I care about most in the world, all together. It will always be one of my favorite things.
I guess you can say I’m one of the “lucky ones”, I love my family, we all get a long really well. Yes, even the in-laws. People say, “Wow, you all get a long, you know that’s not normal.” I don’t know what normal is, but in this instance I’m proud to know we are not. I’m not sure exactly how it happened. Relationships take a lot of work, being interested in each other is a good start, but I think it’s because everyone respects each other. That is the glue.
Listen with your ears, eyes and hearts
My daughter’s Kindergarten teacher tells this to her class everyday,”Listen with your ears, eyes and hearts.” I LOVE that. We’ve all heard the phrase, everything I need to know I learned in Kindergarten, if that’s true then I hope this sticks.
Not every situation with every person, especially family will be laughter and smiles, but if you take a moment to listen you may learn something , not just about the other person, but probably about yourself as well.
Enjoy it for what it is
There are a lot of situations that are frustrating, annoying, irritating especially if you feel that something is out of your control or not where you want it to be.
Enjoy it for what it is. Are you with your family this one time of year? Learn something new about your cousin, aunt or uncle that you didn’t know or if they are complaining the whole time, be grateful you don’t have as much to complain about.
Most of the time I hope you can say that you are around people who care about you, even if sometimes it doesn’t feel that way.
A story to tell
No matter what your experience, there’s a story there somewhere… maybe this year it’s the story of the turkey not being fully cooked, or crazy uncle so-and-so got drunk, or every single person from the family showed up, or kids coming home from their first semester away at college telling tales of their new discoveries.
What role do you play? What do you have to contribute? Your favorite family recipe, your song about eating turkey, bringing your young children to celebrate with the older generation, a hug, a smile, a laugh, a point of view. Bring all of those. They are important to your family, no matter how you classify “Family.”
I’m grateful for my family everyday.
Readers- Friends & Family- Thank you for your encouraging words and comments! Sharing these posts brings me such joy and I hope it brings you something special too.
P.S. Please share some of your favorite Thanksgiving stories in the comments ( good and crazy)